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Process the Past, Protect Your Future: Couples EMDR Therapy

 

When your individual histories are colliding in your present relationship, talk therapy alone can feel like circling the same drain. I provide specialized Couples EMDR across VT, NH, NC, and SC to help you heal the triggers, not just manage the symptoms.

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When "Communication Skills" Aren’t Enough

Most couples come to me when they’ve tried it all: active listening, "I" statements, and de-escalation. But if one or both of you are being triggered into a "fight-or-flight" response, those skills disappear.

Couples EMDR goes deeper. We identify the "raw spots"—the past traumas or attachment wounds—that get activated during conflict. By processing these together, we lower the emotional charge of your fights, allowing you to finally use the tools you've learned.

A Structured Path to Relational Repair

Step 1 of Couples EMDR process: The Joint Discovery Call.

The Joint Discovery Call

We begin with a brief video consultation to ensure my approach aligns with your relational goals. Both partners must be present for this initial connection.

Step 2 of Couples EMDR process: Individual Clinical Intakes

Individual Clinical Intakes

Safety is paramount. I meet with each partner separately to explore your personal history and identifying the "raw spots" that get activated in the relationship.

Step 3 of Couples EMDR process: Summary and Goal Setting.

Summary & Goal Setting

We reconvene as a couple to synthesize our findings and map out a clear strategy. We align on specific targets for reprocessing before we begin the EMDR phase.

 

Step 4 of Couples EMDR process: 120-minute Intensive Sessions.

Deep-Work Sessions (90–120 Minutes)

Real neurobiological breakthrough requires time. To ensure we can fully process a traumatic target without the interruption of a standard therapy hour, our sessions are minimally 90 minutes, with a preference for 120-minute blocks. This intensive format allows for significant movement in every session.

Specialized Trauma Support Across the East Coast

Based in Vermont, I provide a secure, modern telehealth environment for high-impact couples work. I am licensed to serve residents in:

  • Vermont & New Hampshire: Focused trauma care for the Twin States.

  • North Carolina & South Carolina: Virtual Couples EMDR for partners in the Carolinas.

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A Resource for Your High-Conflict Referrals

If you are a primary couples therapist with a pair that is "stuck" due to individual trauma, let’s collaborate. I provide targeted, adjunctive Couples EMDR to resolve specific blocks, allowing them to return to your work with increased regulation and resilience.

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The first step is a simple conversation to discuss your needs and see which path s right for you.

 

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